I could be quite successful if I would just
stop predicting the future. A yarn about assuming the
worst, with a worksheet
on expecting the best.
In 2014 my position was made
redundant and my boss decided it was far better to invite me to
a meeting entitled "Your Next Project" rather than what was
actually going to happen. As he sat silent in the meeting room,
a HR voice came over the phone speaker and advised that my
position was no longer required. Hmmm.
Three months later I
accepted a Senior Management position overseas. I moved my
family, my house and my ego around four thousand kilometres
east, only to be sacked on the spot eight weeks later. My boss
then had HR escort me off the premises rather than provide me
with much needed feedback. Hmmm.
Fast forward three years,
and I am working in the same industry, same discipline, same job
and thinking that i'm doing pretty well. I walk passed my boss's
office en-route to the loo and he asks me to drop in on my way
back. I panic and demand he tells me there and then what's on
his mind but he fobs me off with a 'crazy lady' shake of the
I have lost my job. Not in
the real world, but through my coal coloured glasses. I lose
track of time in the Ladies as I organise a lift home, a way to
pay the mortgage during my impending unemployment and a possibly
untraceable method of slashing my bosses tyres. I forget the
knickers around my knees and almost hit my head on the toilet
door as I practice the epic speech I will deliver as I walk off
the premises with my head held high. I stumble into his office
and he introduces me to the new HR representative [pretty sure I
peed a little at that point] and asks that I give them ten
minutes because they have some paperwork to finish.
At my desk, I scour items
that I would have to take with me immediately. Hmmm what to do
with the fish tank? Could I fit the ergonomic chair in the car?
Damn, I took the bus today. Mid thought, i'm tapped on the
shoulder by our second in charge, nicest man on the planet who
asks me if i'll come in for a word with him and the boss. Shite,
they've brought in the big guns. Should I ring Hubby? Can I stop
myself from doing something embarrassing? I grunt and nod and
follow him into the office. He closes the door. Oh my, it's all
over. Bastards. They can stick their job up their arse, the
amount of time i've given them. Arrggh i've got a meeting this
afternoon and i've just been fitted for new steel caps. This is
not fair .. I'm sorry what did you say?
"Jedda we've talked
with the senior staff and we would like to invite you to join
us on our next project. It will be a more senior position of
I'm sorry what?
You do a great job and
well we want to be able to snag you before someone else does.
You look a bit pale. Do you need some water? Have a think
about it and get back to us soon.
I drag myself out to the
balcony. I cry and cry and cry. I'm so built up with hate and
retaliation and negative expectation, that I feel woozy. I was
so fixed on one outcome, that I never imagined there could be a
different one. My entire view was through Coal Coloured Glasses
.. I took the job by the way.
you might never have taken it that far, but have you dismissed
an opportunity because something similar didn't work out in
the past? Or built up such a negative result that it seems
impossible to achieve anything else? Caution can protect us
from making the same mistakes again but lets be clear on the
mistakes. In the first scenario, over a hundred people in my
discipline were made redundant, the outcome was not linked to
my performance. In the second scenario, I had broadcast my
difficulties regularly and was fed with a constant "you'll be
right". I needed mentoring to be successful and the project
just didn't have the capacity.
may very well be right in not going through with an idea based
on an educated guess of what has happened in the past, but it
is still a guess. So I say, if you're going to guess the
result, why not dream a Chevy instead of a go-cart. It's your
head, you're in control of the scenery. Download the worksheet and take off those
Coal Coloured Glasses. Determine your own next step.